| Author | Message | ||
     Mr2334 (Mr2334) |
This is my first time, not to be spanked, but to actually talk about it with people who don't think I'm weird. I don't really understand how the format works, but after pouting for a few hours on this very dreary day, hubs finally decided that a session with the body brush was in order. Feel much better, if not sitting pretty. | ||
| Paddy (Paddy) |
Just jump in any where. And enjoy. Nice people here. And we are all weird. We don't much mind if anyone thinks it either lolololol. Welcome, Patty | ||
| Joannie (Joannie) |
Hello Missy... you aren't any more weird than the rest of us. Please feel free to join in and post. If you have questions, we'll all try to help. If you have comments, or just want to vent, we'll listen. hugggs, joannie | ||
| Mr2334 (Mr2334) |
Can I ask what WEG and some of the other things mean, without stopping the conversation too much? | ||
| Mr2334 (Mr2334) |
He's pretty new at it, and is taking a while to get used to the whole thing, like me needing it and not being able to ask for it. | ||
| Sheridan (Sheridan) |
Hi Mr2334 Welcome to the fourm!  Here are some words you that i can let you in on... WEG.....Wicked Evil Grin LOL..... Laughing out loud BTW..... By The Way BOTW.... Brat of the week AOTW..... Angel of the week There are a few others if I remeber them I'll post them here for you Welcome and I hope you have fun here. | ||
| Mr2334 (Mr2334) |
I sit here and giggle at some of the things said, it seems like such a neat group of people. I can learn a lot. Thank you for letting me in. | ||
| Kitty (Kitty) |
Missy: Welcome to the club of 'Angels' Most of the Rats (men) have a different view, and I am sure before long you will understand. Take Care, Be Safe and Have Fun! My Love, Kitty PS: It's Miss Kitty this week... the Angel Brat! | ||
| Mr2334 (Mr2334) |
Thank you, Miss Kitty, for the warm welcome. I would appreciate any advice for this novice. Hubs needs a little encouragement, too, though. I really want to get into the DD thing, but also "need" the slightly lighter stuff just to make it through the day. He's agreed to try it, but it's hard to accept, for both of us. Any advice from a veteran? | ||
| Kitty (Kitty) |
Missy: Communication is your biggest hurdle. For my Lance and I, the more we could talk and be honest with each other and 'ourselves' individually... the easier everything worked out. For him and I, we grew with our communications until we were Best Friends, Great Lovers and One Soul... I can see the same with many couples here on SS, also. There are many to help you through the beginning steps... From my husband and I, we started all endeavors by talking it out. Sometimes we both had the same meanings... but different words to get to those meanings... it would take longer, and was frustrating. With the talking and communicating, we developed an unspoken trust. I do believe each individual couple goes forward... goes backward... If you can hold hands and hang on, though, you'll get to where you want to be. Best of Luck to Both of You! And don't forget the hugs!!! I truly believe you can never receive or give enough of them. Here's one just for you!  Take Care, Be Safe and Have Fun! My Love, Miss Kitty, Angel Brat | ||
| Preachers_Wife (Preachers_Wife) |
Hello Missy...We are new here also...so we can stick together...*s*...my hubby (CJ) and I are just starting out in this life change also and are trying to figure everything out...we both know it's for the best...just seems to be a bit of work to get there...but everything good in life takes some work...glad you are here...welcome to the group...fayeth | ||
| Sheridan (Sheridan) |
Hey Missy welcome again oh theres one thing we all new angels should know Silvermane umm Silverjudge likes sugar in his coffee (WEG) sheridan{S} | ||
| Sunshine (Sunshine) |
Welcome to the forum Missy, just keep talking things through, it takes a lot of time and patience but it'll be worth it in the end. sunshine | ||
| Wildkat (Wildkat) |
Hiya Missy and a warm welcome to our forum...and as all the other wonderful "angels" have said...just feel free to post whenever you want too and have fun!... You will find everyone here are very understanding, patient, helpful, will offer a shoulder to cry on or will share a joke that will have you in laughter for hours...  | ||
| Dragontamer (Dragontamer) |
Missy,,and Fayeth,,Welcome!! I am Dragontamer,,,husband of Dragonlady. We are fairly new here and have been in d/d for several months now. Margarita posted for some time before I did. I read,,then started posting. I can assure you that everyone here is sincere when they say they are supportive. We have made many friends here and still hope to make many more. As everyone stated,,post where and when you please. It is fun and informative at the same time due to various relationships here and personalities. One bit of advice that I might add is: Stay away from the BRAT PACK (aka-ANGELS),,lol,,,They are the biggest bunch of whinning,,,snivelling,,complaining,,,bunch of lower s/o's you'll ever meet!!!! LMAO!!! Why,,,,they are so low,,they have to look up to look down!!!! ROTFLMAO!!! Anyway,,,welcome and good luck!!! Dragontamer | ||
| Paddy (Paddy) |
That Missy was a Masterbaiter. He thinks he's a dragontamer. We've been trying to break him of the habit, butt he's just incorrigable. He'll be blind before long... | ||
| Naughtymom (Naughtymom) |
Welcome Missy, we really are very nice here as long as you pay no attention to that man behind the curtain. | ||
| Naughtyangel (Naughtyangel) |
Missy, Welcome. We are a fun bunch and a supportive community. My advice is to read, make comments or ask questions where you would like, or need too. If a thread has not been open in a while and you are interested, post to it and reopen it. There is a lot of great information here. My name is Che'/Naughty Angel and I am married to Silvermane(and various other Silver names..WEG)We have been practicing DD for a little over 5 months, since finding this forum and finding out that what we had been talking about had a name. LOL Relax, have fun, read, join in, and learn. This is a good place for it. Love, Che' Naughty  p.s. The Brat Pack members are all male and have been listed by name a couple other places as well. | ||
| Naughtyangel (Naughtyangel) |
And Dragontamer! Shame on you, for trying to confuse our newer members! Missy this is one of the Brat Pack members. LOL Love, Che' Naughty  | ||
| Sheridan (Sheridan) |
P~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~DT!! it works!! lmao!! | ||
| Dragontamer (Dragontamer) |
Che',,,just trying to mix it up and take back what is ours--Control of you BRATS,,(aka ANGELS) We will prevail!!! As we have said in the past,,remember who wields the staff!!! LMAO!! Sheridan,,,,P~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ !! Double!! Dragontamer | ||
| Naughtyangel (Naughtyangel) |
Dragontamer, Dragontamer, there you go again...proving your delusionalstate. We are the angels, you are the brats. It is very simple. See? Control? I haven't seen anyone disputing control of anyone. Of course we allow you to keep up the appearances of control. LOL Love, Che' Naughty  | ||
| Kellie (Kellie) |
DT hush sheesh and let a girl feel welcome before you start in on her. Did your momma teach you nothing boy. Hello Missy and welcome everyone here is so nice and helpful I know you will enjoy yourself here. I am trying to convert my poor hubby over to the idea that I need this to feel love. He does not understand and we will be on this journey for a long time I am afraid. There seems to be times we go forward a few steps and then the next thing I know we have leaped backwards. But I am told this is normal. Any sorry for my long winded welcome. Kellie | ||
| Mr2334 (Mr2334) |
Thank you all for making me feel so welcome. I'd asked the hubs to read a little of what what going on here, see what he thought. Of course, the first thing he noticed was that I was using my REAL name. So, comp off for 24 hours and a little "reminder" about e-safety was in order. He's over it now, though, because it's too late anyway. I was just reading about the awards that y'all hand out, (so to speak), and couldn't help laughing. This is going to be so much fun, to get to know everyone. Hopefully, he'll eventually get comfortable enough to converse with some of the other S/O's. | ||
| Sheridan (Sheridan) |
(Sheridan walks up behind DT and smacks him with the jokari paddle 3 times) P~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ LMAO I know what your thinking Che lmao stop it!LMAO | ||
| Naughtyangel (Naughtyangel) |
Missy, Sounds like you will fit right in here. We look forward to getting to know you and your hubby when he decides to plunge in. Just remember who the angels are and who the brats are and you will be fine. LOL Sheridan, You are so right! LOL Love, Che' Naughty  | ||
| Mr2334 (Mr2334) |
Well, I'm not a genius or anything, but seems to me from past experiences, that anything with a penis is a brat automatically, and anything that has to put up with one of them is an angel automatically. How am I doing so far? Missy | ||
| Dragontamer (Dragontamer) |
Missy,,,just don't go getting any ideas like the other 2 BRATS above!! LMAO!! We do have fun here and you'll find first names are safe here also.(and a few other 4 letter words!!) Tell your S/O not to worry,,,good people,,good times!!! Dragontamer | ||
| Sheridan (Sheridan) |
Wait!? DT who you calling brats???? me? Che nope were both angels Your doing great Missy Che umm can we get the power of Three and pof that one post up there?? we can call Leo???? LOLOL sheridan{S} | ||
| Naughtyangel (Naughtyangel) |
Straight A's Missy! I see you already know the ropes. WEG Angels it seems we have a new bona fide member here! LOL Dragontamer, Too late to try to confuse Missy, she already knows who is who. Unfair dirty fighting tactics, trying to muddy the waters with new members. Shame on you! LOL (Boy is it fun to be able to have you on the playing field again) Love, Che' Naughty  | ||
| Mr2334 (Mr2334) |
Problem being, of course, if Bill does ever decide to jump into the conversation, I will have some 'splainin' to do for some of the previous comments. Oh well, I know the risks, but this is just such fun. Missy | ||
| Sheridan (Sheridan) |
LMAO @ U CHE!!! ROFLMAO  sheridan{S} | ||
| Shandy (Shandy) |
yup..welcome welcome missy! boy are we one up on the *Angel's* side now,WEG! Hope you enjoy Secret's..look forward to getting to know you better. huggsssss, shandy  | ||
| Oldtom (Oldtom) |
How about someone who makes inane posts to old discussion threads so as to bring them to the fore thus inducing way too many people to waste way too much time trying to keep up with way too many active threads? That might be the action of a Brat. On the other hand, posting *useful information and commentary* in *numerous locations* is obviously the work of Someone Who Cares. | ||
| Joannie (Joannie) |
Okay, Old Tom... WEG... Yes, I do believe you are Someone Who Cares... and I do believe that you are enjoying "bratting" a bit, too... to make a point... I get the point... Wonder if anyone else does??? hugggs, joannie, WEG | ||
| Paddy (Paddy) |
I get the message too. Another sweet fellow he sees something and has a fundamental understanding, and just wants to say "remember what matters." *Paddy (Paddy) Saturday, January 05, 2002 - 06:41 pm -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Just jump in any where. And enjoy. Nice people here. And we are all weird. We don't much mind if anyone thinks it either lolololol. Welcome, Patty * I wish I could say that my soul beleives everything I have said. I wish I could say that it doesn't matter what people think. Most days it doesn't. But the trouble is when they hit on your fears and deamons, (even when they have no idea what they are) they can hurt you. And that is the case for me these days. I have tried to say I was sorry to Barb. But I guess I owe appologies all around. And to my husband most of all. But guys,,, I guess I am still a little lost in my doubts. Cause here I go again. I hate this crying all the time. I know its not just because some toxic person on another forum made a persistant arguement that I need D/D because I am fundamentally weak and incapable of controlling my impulses and need Fred to help me 'pretend' to be an adult. I know it's everything going on in my world. What an interesting coalescence though when you think about it. My deamons seem to have found this opportunity in my life to make me bump into them in their physical and psychic reality at every turn. And my impulses are out of control. Here I am grounded precisely because I'm reacting to everything little thing. And what do I do? Post and try explaining. I'm not helping my case much am I? On either front. Letting my husband know I'm past it?,,, nope,, that's a bust. Letting my deamons know they're all wet? heh nope,,, not right now they aren't. But my face is, it has been for days. Well I'm on my way to work. I e-mailed this to Fred too, so I'm caught without anyone else having to point him to this. | ||
| Joannie (Joannie) |
Well, Patty, I sure as heck didn't think Old Tom was referring to you. I saw it as something different completely... And the point I thought he was trying to make was about the Archiving.... Perhaps I will just shut up right now... (I'm sorry if you felt you needed to post because of the comment I made...) hugggs, joannie | ||
| Oldtom (Oldtom) |
In fact I wasn't looking for any particular person or thing or topic. I was wandering around looking for things I'd missed; it's become obvious in this weekend I'd missed a LOT. (Could be related to the fact that I didn't peek in for several months.) I *was* purposely leaving traces of my meanderings. And, it would seem, others managed to pull the same things out of those threads which I did. I *was* struck by Patty's "we are all weird" comment. That's an extremely advanced concept and very difficult to come to that realization. Took many years, decades, to accept that it's *okay* to be wired differently. It was not until I met (in email) one or more women who enjoyed being spanked, that it became okay for me to want to do the spanking. Until then, how could I be sure my thoughts weren't abusive? The existence of the flip side of the coin validated *my* side of the coin. Do you see what I mean? Patty, the fact that I exist - and Fred, JT, and so on - validates your need to be part of a DD relationship. Strangely enough, it's the gay, bi, leather, fetishists who *can* understand - because they understand the concept of being wired differently, and have observed that most people *cannot* understand. Many are as biased and bigoted and intolerant as anyone else, but are *capable* of understanding. Patty, you have your validation *here*. By the way. If you *were* weak and fundamentally incapable of controlling your impulses (yeah right), SO WHAT??? That means you get spanked. Is this a PROBLEM??? | ||
| Mystique (Mystique) |
Patty....there are bumps in the road in life. There are trials we must all endure. All unique to us and I believe for a reason and purpose we may not see at the time. The answer is usually clear after we clear the hump. You are doing all the things needed to get past the hump. There are those that dont which only stagnates not getting past it. To me everything happens for a reason, we dont have a choice; it doesnt mean we get to enjoy it but we Learn from it. We learn more everyday of our lives but to deny that keeps us from moving foward in life. To speak to others just to unload gives back power to your inner strength needed to get past it as well. Lessons learned in life are not always easy but something can be found to be appreciated out of it all once we do. Hopefully this bump for you wont last much longer. May all here live in peace, light, and happiness Mystique | ||
| Paddy (Paddy) |
We are all weird, every one I know is odd, and "wired" differently in some way. In my world I am amazed at how few people are really "normal." Especially the doctors (sorry Jimbob) Most days I just marvel and enjoy us (the collective us). Now and then I get seduced by my own acceptance of us, our amazing differences and idiosyncracies. Fred says this is my weakness. That I trust, and then I beleive, and then I get lost. Because while I understand and accept almost unconditionally,,,, most do not. I keep making that same mistake. I keep thinking that the world sees and accepts "us" like I do. It hurts a lot when I get slapped in the face by the fact of intolereance and ignorance. It always sneaks up on me. WE are good, Fred and I. I know that from the deepest fibers in me. And the friends we have made here are amazing. I could kick myself for the doubts sometimes. But you guys bring me back to the sunny side where I know I belong, and there really are others who know the truth. Thanks for your patience. | ||
| Oldtom (Oldtom) |
Thanks, Patty, for being our example of what is possible. | ||
| Paddy (Paddy) |
Please don't tease me. "We" really are smarter and healtier. And I'm not up to showing how these days. Because except for most of the folks here and my family, I'm not really sure. And I'm just ever so slightly fragile. I could get strong and sharp, but I'm not sure I'll pass the sharp and hard test. This isn't a joke, and it isn't a tease. K? | ||
| Spankcanuk (Spankcanuk) |
Patty is one of the most trusting and accepting souls I have ever known. She is too trusting She is much too easily hurt by folks who look for her, or folks like her. That is where I come in. Selfish bastards like me do what we can to keep the patty's safe. She is mine. Hurt her and you answer to me. Fuck with her and you will have an interesting ride. Join with her in embracing what she believes in and we will be friends, maybe even allies. No games here folks. With respects Fred (who knows his wife is having a rough ride) | ||
| Oldtom (Oldtom) |
My 11:13 post was meant literally, and with absolute sincerity. I do see your relationship (Fred and Patty's relationship) as a favorable example of what is possible. If Patty falls down, does that alter her status (imo) as a favorable example of what is possible? Of course not! That's got nothing to do with it. So it is with many others here. Each of you provide a community, and each of you provide validation of who *I* am. | ||
| Preachers_Wife (Preachers_Wife) |
Patty, I know you are going through a rough time right now and I am not sure I can say anything that will be of any help whatsoever. But I can tell you this, like you, I trust everyone and am hurt because I do, alot. Except, when I am hurt, I just withdraw, I close myself off, I internalize EVERYTHING! I wish I was more outspoken, that I had the guts to just say it like it is. And maybe as I am getting older I am finding this to be easier. In the field of work CJ is in, being a preacher, we run into intolerant and ignorant people all the time. You are right about not finding many "normal" people in the world, and to be honest with you I don't want to be normal or at least what today's world sees as normal. I can't tell you how much it has broken my heart to see the hurt that the toxic people of this world have added to what you are already dealing with. Anyway, long way to say, you aren't alone. I admire you and Fred and the life that you lead. I love the way you speak your mind and the way Fred is always there for you. I'm not always great with words, but I seem to find myself in your post and then I'm like YES!!! That's what I was trying to say. lol. Anyway, if there is ever anything that CJ or I can do to help either of you,please let us know. Y'all are in our thoughts and prayers. | ||
| Joannie (Joannie) |
Fred, you are not a "selfish bastard". You've proven that over and over again in many different ways. You're simply a man who loves his wife and will protect her. That is a good thing. Patty, hon, I don't think anyone who is a part of this "family" would tease you about feeling "fragile" right now. For one thing, we all go through this at times, and for another, we still see your strength. Be patient with yourself... and remember that we care. huggggs and love, joannie | ||
| Naughtyangel (Naughtyangel) |
Well said Joannie. Ditto. Think we have built something special here and it validates each of us in our own way and in accordance with our own views and needs. Fred, You are no more selfish than anyone else here is. You take care of Patty and those you care for. Patty, You'll come back around. When you do we will be here, and until you do we are here. What family is for right? Love, Che' Naughty Angel |
